September 1, 2014
Adam texted the oldest son to let
him know he missed him. Adam also asked the oldest son for some ideas for birthday gifts for little girl. I think it is great that Adam has an avenue
to communicate with the oldest son at any time but there are six children that get left out. The three littlest children don’t
understand all these changes and they are the ones really in need of hearing
from Adam more often.
Somehow Adam was able to
pay off the joint credit card. It was
over $17,000. It’s good that he is
paying off joint debt but I wonder where the money came from. Maybe the money he planned to use to purchase
that other house?
On Wednesday I have a
phone appointment with the county to see if I can get
foodstamps. If I can get assistance, that will free up money so I
can cover the kids’ school fees. I can
pay the electric bill that Adam stopped paying in June. I can buy more food! I think the oldest son will squeal if he can go back
to having an apple before bed.
September 3, 2014
The county called the wrong number for my food assistance phone interview. That’s the second time they have not done
their job correctly. Now I have to wait
three weeks and set aside another five hours of a workday for another
appointment.
It’s that time of year
where I need to get the oldest son, little girl, and soon middle son, in for their yearly well
visits. This is the month all the kids
would get the flu-mist/shot. I emailed
Adam asking if the kids were still covered under the Empire medical plan that he had at his last employer. If not, does he
know when the new coverage kicks in. He
said the papers just got filed and I’ll need to wait 15 days. I asked that he let me know all of our info
as soon as he gets it. I am willing to
wait to make the well-visits closer to middle son's birthday. I am wondering what will happen if someone
gets sick or hurt. I am also wondering
if there was a coverage gap type of insurance Adam could have gotten to cover
what will be nearly a month of no health or dental coverage for the
children. If he was going to have a gap
why didn’t he tell me to sign them up on my work plan when I asked about
that? I am also wondering if this puts
him in contempt of one of the restraining orders that is par for the course in
divorce cases. Would it be spiteful of
me to ask my lawyer? I don’t want to
upset Adam but I also think it is a huge gamble to have no coverage with seven
children.
September 4, 2014
I had a
parenting fail today. I forgot that the middle/high school rescheduled their open house for tonight. Ms. Middle Child reminded me while I was driving
home. I was steeling myself to continue
my day when I drove by the school and saw Adam's car. I am impressed that he went. I told the three oldest they could
head over and spend the time with him. I
figure I met the teachers last year and I can always call them on the phone if
I need to. I was also hoping that if
Adam was in a good mood and enjoying the kids that he would pay their
fees. I know that is wishful thinking
but I would imagine the obligation of paying for his children's needs would be
right in his face and he would pay. I'll
call tomorrow and find out.
The event
ended at 7:30pm. Two children came
home shortly before that and asked if the oldest was back. She was not. The oldest son said she had run ahead of them and they didn't know where she
went. I asked where their dad was at and the oldest son told me "Daddy left after the final class met." Right then I
stopped being impressed with Adam. He
hasn't seen the kids for nearly two weeks and he had the opportunity to spend
some time with the three and he left?! He
didn't even offer to drive them home?!
Not much
later, Adam called the oldest son to find out what little girl wanted for her birthday. Okay, so I guess he left the other kids so he
could birthday shop but why not wait 30 extra minutes? Or take them with him?
After all
of that wrapped up, I was a bit worried because the oldest still had not shown
up. I was contemplating calling the
police or the school, when she walked in.
Apparently, she went to talk to her science teacher and said the other two kids did not follow. We had a
discussion about sticking together. Then
I grounded the oldest for leaving "the group."
September 5, 2014
I woke
Paisley up by bringing her a birthday cake in bed. The other kids each had a gift to give
her. She had a great morning and was
excited to take cookies to school to share with her friends (I sent a box of
gluten free cookies for her). I texted Adam a picture of Paisley with her
cake. He responded that she was
cute.
I dropped the kids off with Adam at the usual time. Paisley shouted from her bedroom window
"Daddy is making me a cake and he has my toys on the table but I didn't
look!" Silly girl! I am happy that he thought ahead enough to
have the ingredients for a cake.
I am also
still a little stunned that Adam responded to my inquiry about dropping the
kids off on Sunday. He never responded
to my offer for him to drop them off at the Festival so I figure I will be
seeing them at 7:30pm on Sunday.
I did call Stivers magnet Office to find out if Adam paid
even some of the fees. I think the lady
is getting use to me calling. She said
no fees had been paid. It is very
difficult to not think bad thoughts about Adam at times like this. He has the money, why is he not paying those
fees?
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